We cannot choose who will fall in love with us and we really cannot even control who we fall in love with. You definitely cannot decide what will happen with your feelings and you cannot force yourself to stop loving someone or caring for someone that you get feelings for.
It is hard to find the right person and if you have a hard time controlling your feelings then chances are you might find yourself in a place where you have fallen for the wrong person in our life.
These kind of things never seem to end on a good note and when you know that you are in love with someone that is not meant for you, just know that you are not alone.
If things were easy and we fell in love with the perfect person for us each time, we wouldn’t have to ever break up or go through a divorce. We would have a happy life and we would never have to worry about them hurting us, cheating on us, or disappointing us. You will never have to figure how to tell if someone likes you or not because you would automatically know.
When you love someone that is wrong for you, sometimes you don’t even realize it and you miss the signs that let you know that you are with the wrong person. Here are some signs that can help you not to fall in that trap:
If you are with someone but you hope that you can change them then you are asking to get hurt. Being with someone in a healthy relationship means that you can say what upsets or bothers you and you and your partner will handle the situation together. If you are with the wrong person and you want to change things, chances are you are going to talk but they are never really going to listen.
You cannot expect someone to change for you. When you are in this situation, you will need to learn to be honest with yourself and know the relationship isn’t right for you.
Falling in love with someone can be great but if you are in different time zones or on different schedules then you will have a hard time finding ways to spend time with each other and your relationship will never grow.
Even if you love this person, being on different schedules can hurt your communication, trust and love and is an ingredient for a failed relationship. No matter how much you want this to work out, you will be strangers to each other.
Money is a big thing in any relationship and if you find that you are always the person that spends money on things such as date, bills or other things then you have to realize that something isn’t right.
If you have a partner that is not contributing to the relationship, then you will see that the relationship is imbalanced, and it will bring you unhappiness.
You have to care about who you are and about yourself. You will exercise, eat right, and sleep well. If your habits have changed because of your partner, chances are that you are with the wrong person.
If you find that your partner likes to go to the bar more than you or they are against healthy eating and you love a salad each day, there is a reason that you are probably with the wrong person.
On and Off Again
No on and off again relationship is healthy. You might hope that it will work out, but the truth is that you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak, again and again.
If you are in a cycle of this kind of relationship, it will only end in a mess.
Friends and Family
You should change your life if you have a partner, but it should not mean that you give up on the people that you love. You have to make good choices and changes and if you do not feel good about them then chances are that you are with the wrong partner.
Your partner should never ask you to spend time with them over your family or friends and you should be able to see your friends and family.
People do not always want to be labeled and if you are committed to someone though, you will want there to be a relationship label. If you feel disconnected to your partner and you feel that they are not wanting to set boundaries and say that they are committed to you then you might need to move forward.
You should never be with someone just because it is c comfortable. You should always be growing and moving forward in your life. If you wait and are patient, you will meet the perfect person and you will learn to be honest with who you are and what you need.
Confused About Love
Having a crush on someone does not mean you are in love. A crush is sometimes just an emotional feeling that focuses on a specific person.
There is a difference between being in love and having a crush. If you are crushing on someone and they don’t return it, they are not right for you.
Loving someone means that they love you back and you stick together through the good and bad times. This is a relationship based on love and respect and accepting each other no matter what their flaws are.
When you have a disagreement with your partner, you should both be willing to compromise and apologize. If you are in an unhealthy relationship and your partner does not want to say they are wrong, you might be dealing with someone immature.
When you say you are sorry, you take responsible for your actions and you show that you care that you hurt someone. If this isn’t happening in your relationship, chances are you should look closely at it.
If you have a partner that does not act like an adult when you are in public, this could be the wrong person for you. You should never have to apologize for how your partner is acting and if you find that you are always apologizing for them then chances are you love the wrong person.
Talk to your partner about this and if they act upset or mad about it then end the conversation and consider if you are with the wrong person or not.
Comfortable in Bed
You should be able to tell your partner what you like in bed. You will be with them forever if you choose to get married and if they do not know what you like, this is a fail in your relationship. Relationships need to have healthy sex and if you are unhappy in the bedroom, you might love the wrong person.
Learn to communicate with them and see if they are willing to do what pleases you.
Having sex does not always mean that your relationship will be healthy. You have to connect when you have sex and you have to learn to be intimate. If you are not having this, chances are you are with the wrong person.
Sex is important but when it just becomes a chore then the relationship isn’t growing, and you might be with the wrong person.
You need to be able to say what you are feeling and express your feelings to your partner. If you have a hard time telling them things or being who you are, you might want to rethink your partner choice.
Having a good relationship means you will be with someone that wants you to be who you are and say what you want to say. Each relationship will have its own personality and you need to be with a partner that likes yours.
Selfish relationships mean that one person always wants things their way. In a good relationship, there is give and take. You have to be with someone that is willing to compromise. Your opinion should matter to them and if it doesn’t, you have fallen for the wrong person and they have no respect for you.
Family or Friends
You should be with someone that your family and friends like. Sometimes people are blinded by feelings and they don’t listen to others. You need to make sure that your family and friends see what you love in this person and if they are missing it, chances are it isn’t there.
Another thing that should work is visiting their family. If you feel weird around their family and you feel like you hate going there on holidays, chances are you are with the wrong person. No matter how much you like them, if you cannot get along with their family then loving them will always be hard.
You should fit in with his family and he should fit with yours.
A partner should be about your needs and his needs. If this isn’t happening, then you are with the wrong person. If you always have to let him choose where to eat or what to do for fun, then he only cares about himself.
You need to be with someone that you can be comfortable expressing what you want and need. You should not have to always be the one in control of the relationship either and it should be a compromise on both sides.
Nobody will ever tell you that life is easy and if they do, they are lying. But if you feel drained after being around your partner then chances are you are with the wrong person. This is a sign that you are emotionally unstable around that person and you need to find someone that makes you feel strong.
If you are in love with who the person you are with could be then you might be with the wrong person. You need to stop thinking of life as a fantasy and see them for who they are.
If you see more potential than reality, then you might find that your relationship will never be what you want it to be.
Never be mad at yourself for your relationship and find someone that is best for you. Even if you attract people and enjoy them, it doesn’t mean you have to be with them.
Let go of situations that are unhealthy for you and find someone that you love that will love you for what you deserve.