Some people seem to attract heartbreak when it comes to relationships. These individuals may want to cut everyone off and never try for love again, logically speaking. It is hard to continually put your heart on the line. However, falling in love is inspirational and brings on creativity, comfort, and passion. There is no reason to let the emotional trauma of the past, ruin a future search for love. Instead, you can follow the steps below to find new love in the upcoming year.
Forgive and Forget
The first step is always the hardest, but to move forward, you must look forward. Focusing on the past keeps you there, so work on things that will affect your future positively. If arguments with an ex were a problem, it does not good to rehash them now. Forgive, forget, and move on to a new love.
Once the forgiveness has been given to the ex, forgive yourself as well. Rediscover how to be comfortable in your own skin and space. Remember, we are all flawed and imperfect, but it does not mean love is not on the horizon. Stand tall, be proud of who and what you are, and show confidence. This will help attract new love that recognizes your greatness.
Know What You Want
Once you are comfortable with yourself, spend time doing what you want and love to know what you want out of a relationship. As children we all have dreams, even if they are unrealistic, but as adults we work to simply fit in. Somewhere between these extremes lies what we really want. Discover this area and define what you want in life and a relationship. You will soon find the love worthy of all you are willing to put into as far as time, resources, and effort. You and your partner need to support and enjoy similar things. You do not have to be exactly the same, but mesh well with someone to find true love.
Check the Fears
Many people fear having their heart broken yet again, so they never open themselves up to love. While it is easy to become cynical, being afraid of getting hurt will cause you to be hurt. Relax, let your true self shine, and get to know others. Be cautious if you must, but never be afraid. Confidence is essential in love, so open yourself up to new things and people. Talk about yourself and if the person becomes judgmental, they are not for you. It is always best to know early on.
Look in the Right Places
While it is totally possible to find love in a bar or club, it is also a crap shoot. People are drinking, amped up, and possibly using other substances, so they are not who they are day to day. Instead, be you, go out and have fun in places you are completely comfortable being yourself, and love will find you. Enjoy life and when you run into others doing the same, you will be more likely to find a match.
Stay Calm, Consider Online
Love is not always local. If you are having no luck in your day to day, go online to expand the search. Dating sites and many social media sites are full of others looking for love. Paid sites tend to filter out those not serious pretty well, but use your common sense and remember there is a person behind the screen. Treat them like you would in person and if something feels off, then trust those instincts and move on. We all need human connection and even if it starts in the virtual world, true love can be found.
Patience really is a virtue, even when it comes to love. While one-night stands do happen, do not expect the first person you meet to be your “true love.” While you may be lucky and find them, it is not highly likely. Have fun dating, enjoy the journey, and when the “one” comes, you will know. Remember, your true love could be anywhere so keep searching. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone and you will find someone who keeps you smiling. There is someone out there for everyone.