To put it bluntly, if his feelings have changed, then your relationship needs to change immediately. Below are several signs that your boyfriend or husband does not love you and what to do. Perhaps he doesn’t listen to you or hasn’t “dated” you for several years. If you are picking up on certain signs and do not feel loved, you are not alone. The sooner you accept and recognize that the love is gone, the sooner you can start to cope with what your future holds. This is a time when emotional and spiritual strength are imperative. Start preparing yourself for a new, fulfilling relationship so you can fall in love with someone who loves you back and gives you all you want, need, and deserve.
You deserve to be part of a relationship that is happy and healthy. We only accept the love we think we deserve, so believe you deserve the best. If you are staying with someone who does not love you because you don’t feel you deserve better, then it is time to start thinking better of yourself. The first step is to see and accept the signs that he is no longer in love with you. This will be painful, but the truth will begin to set you free. The next step is to learn how to cope with the changes that will come into your life and how to grow. Even if you end up choosing to stay with your boyfriend or husband, things will change if you can accept, he does not love you. Sometimes, feeling distance is not a determiner of loss of love. Some people will pull away from their loved one when going through a difficult time. Before reading these signs about him no longer loving you, remember there is no one way to love correctly. Some men are guarded where others show love easily. Some couples are overly expressive, while others tend toward reservedness, valuing space and distance in their relationship.
If you feel an emotional distance in your relationship, it does not necessarily mean he does not love you. He may simply be less in touch with feelings and emotions making him less likely to connect on emotional levels. Emotional and physical distance can be a sign of fear of intimacy or another form of red flag, but it may just be the way they love. If you suspect the lack of love in your relationship is something more, the list below can help you decide. While it can be hard to learn to live without him, it is possible.
Start by bravely considering the signs that he is not in love with you any longer, then consider the questions posed at the end. Do not be afraid of admitting the truth, be afraid of losing yourself. Men come and go, but a relationship with yourself and your higher power is much more important. Above all, love yourself enough to pursue something happier, healthier, and better in life.
Searching for Signs
You are the best judge of the relationship you are in and you know your boyfriend or husband best. You know when something is off or missing. If you are reading articles that are about wondering if he loves you, then he is not loving you in the way you want or need. If you are searching for answers, then you are likely anxious or scared about your relationship. No worries, you are not the only one. It’s painful and overwhelming to consider your other half is no longer in love with you, but you can take heart. If there is hope, you can find it, if not, you can move on to happiness.
Lack of Trust
If he betrayed you, by cheating or lying, then you may question his love. If you are unable to offer forgiveness, it may be intuition telling you he will do it again. Lack of trust is a warning sign and you need to pay attention. If you wish to stay and grow in the relationship then trust God to heal your heart and spirit. Jesus is the only source of trustworthy, deep love. He is the only one that completes you and if you allow a human to try to do this, you will be disappointed. This is also setting your man up for failure because he is just human. Like women, men sometimes succumb to weakness and poor decisions. Jesus is the path to true peace and joy.
He Makes You Feel Less Than
When you are around your man, do you feel loved, secure, and cherished? If not then it is a sign he doesn’t love you. If he makes you feel humiliated, depressed, or generally terrible about yourself then it is time to move on. This can be a complicated sign for women who are insecure. The healthier you are spiritually and emotionally, the better all your relationships will be. This strength, energy, and peace will help you grow and positively affect those around you. If you come to the truth that your man is not in love with you, you will be more grounded if secure. All you are looking for can be found in Christ. When considering this sign, remain open to the idea that your insecurities can feed the feeling of being unloved.
Isolates You From Family and Friends
This is a big sign he does not love you or is abusive. He says he loves you so much he wants you all to himself, but isolation and separation are not signs of love. They are signs of a very unhealthy relationship. If he is trying to keep you away from others, this is a huge red flag. Abusive men do what they can to ensure their partners do not spend time with other people alone. If he does not want you to be around those important to you, then he is not loving you in a healthy manner. Reach out to others and talk about your relationship as much as possible.
He Steals from You, Degrades You, or Dismisses You
If he has been stealing from you, degrades you, or dismisses how you feel, then listen to that voice that is saying something is off. Turn to God, He will never do those things. Know you are created for a purpose and that purpose is not to be hurt or abused. Pay attention to the signs and find ways to care for yourself, including speaking with family and friends. Be honest about what is happening.
Does Not Care About Your Dreams
If your man does not encourage you to set goals and pursue them or does not support your dreams, then he may not really love you. Not wanting you to succeed in life is a sign of lack of love and will drag you down over time. Make sure you are supportive of him as well. A healthy, loving relationship requires compatible life and relationship type goals as you work toward a common purpose and mission together.
He Lies to You
This is a big sign that he no longer loves you. He may say he wants the relationship to be different and this may be his only truth. You may or may not believe him because of a personal fear of being alone. Sometimes, we know deep down that someone is lying, but do not want to admit it. We need to be strong enough to face the hurt and rejection even though it is tough.
Does Not Respect You
If you do not feel heard in your relationship or feel disrespected no matter what you say, then the relationship is unhealthy. Respect and listening are signs of a healthy relationship, probably the first you will see. If these do not exist in your own then he may not love you any longer. Talk to him about your concerns and see how it goes. If he does not change, then you need to be willing to walk away.
Pay attention to each of the signs and be willing to discuss them with your partner. Make sure you are showing the love you desire to be returned. If this does not work, then move on to something better. Take time to get to know yourself, what you want, your higher power, and then try again.